Want to Raise Your Kids to Be Disciples? Read On!
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This is a guest post by Courtney, blogger at, A House Built on the Rock.
Hi, I’m Courtney, author of the blog “A House Built On The Rock”
I’m mom to three sweet kids, and wife to a wonderful man. My mission is to encourage young Christian parents to raise a family that will stand firm in their faith in Christ, no matter what life throws at them.
What an honor it is to have been asked to collaborate on this series about discipling our kids! I’m excited to share a little bit about this journey, because not only am I learning to be a better mom, I am learning to be a better disciple myself.
After I became a mom I started putting a lot of thought into the way I want to disciple my kids. I mean, how awesome is it that God has trusted us to partner with Him in teaching these little ones about Him? How great is it that He has given us such an influential a role in their lives that by witnessing us giving our lives to Him, they may one day do the same?
I am bringing them up to be disciples of Christ!
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Can you imagine a more important job in the world, than discipling our kids?
I have found the hardest lesson to teach my kids, and the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn as a disciple, is obedience.
But obedience to God and His Word is so important; we are commanded throughout the Bible to submit to Him! If I want to raise my children to love the Lord, they need to see how much I love Him. They need to see my commitment, and my obedience.
God expects us to obey Him, just as He expects our children to obey us. There is nothing I could ever do for my kids that would lead them to become disciples of Christ, than for them to witness my obedience to His word.
‘And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7 ESV)
As a new mom I wanted to make sure I knew how to do this job right.
I’m Not Just Raising my Kids for the World
Yes, I do want them to be happy, healthy, successful and productive members of society, but I know God’s purpose for their lives is so much greater than the plans I could ever have for them.
So, I read anything I could get my hands on that had to do with raising kids.
It didn’t take long for me to figure out that the world is divided on every possible aspect of parenting.
But, it seems that there is no parenting topic more heated or debated than the subject of teaching our children to obey. Even amongst Christians, opinions on the subject of obedience cause much division and offense.
A Divided World
As I wrestled with learning how to disciple my kids, I realized why the world’s opinions are so divided, confusing and frustrating.
The ruler of this world is Satan, and he will do anything to prevent us from raising our children to be disciples of Christ.
But, thankfully I learned that I was seeking the wisdom I needed in all of the wrong places. If I’m not bringing my children up for this world, then I need to focus my attention elsewhere. After all, the world’s answers are confusing enough.
And I don’t think God wants us to be confused, or divided. Thankfully, He is faithful, and has given us a far greater tool than the world could ever offer: He gave us His Holy Word!
‘Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise, that it may be well with you, and that you will live long on the Earth. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:1-4)
“Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger, But Bring Them Up in the Discipline and Instruction of the Lord.”
If I were to listen to the opinions of the world, I would believe that disciplining my children is all about control. Or maybe I would believe that discipline isn’t all that important.
But The Bible doesn’t instruct us to abandon our responsibility in discipling our children. And neither does it instruct us to teach them in a way that causes them anger, bitterness, or exasperation.
Teaching our kids to obey shouldn’t be about us. It’s not about being in control, or making our days easier.
It’s about teaching them to follow Him through our example of obedience to Him.
Talk about an eye opener. If I am going to expect my kids to submit to my authority, I need to be certain that I am submitting to God’s.
‘Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6-7)
My faith is built on His love, and expressed in my obedience.
When There is No Obedience, There is a Lack of Faith
To obey God is to say that I believe His way is best, so I will follow it. To disobey is to say that we think we know better.
I know He cares for me. And I know that God’s plans for me are far better than any I can make for myself. I know how deep and extravagant His love is for me.
Christ laid down His life for me, so that I can know Him. He is my Healer, my provider, my comforter. Because of His love, I trust Him. And because I trust Him, I seek to obey Him.
In the same way, our children need to know that they can trust our guidance, as we show them how deep our love is for them.
By selflessly laying down our lives for them, as we daily sacrifice our wants for their needs. They need us to provide for them, comfort their fears, and nurture them.
‘Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.’ (Col. 3:23-24)
Our Work in Raising Kids is Hard, Exhausting and Sometimes Discouraging
But it’s so important to remember that the hours, days, and years we spend in service to our families is a testimony of the Father’s love for them!
It’s my prayer that you know how deeply our Father loves you, so well that you will be able to faithfully and obediently serve Him as you raise your family.
In doing so, You will be passing down a legacy far greater than this world could ever offer. Because you aren’t just raising kids, you’re raising disciples!
Have you ever thought about your obedience to God and how it directly connects to raising your kids to love and honor God? How has your walk with God affected your kids, good or bad? Comment below and share with me some of your victories and struggles in discipling your kids.
Hi! I’m Courtney! I’m a full-time wife, mom and homemaker. In my family we love Jesus, homeschool and travel a lot. My mission is to encourage other young wives and mothers to build a family on the foundation of the Word of God, so that they will stand firm in their Christian faith, despite living in a divided and broken world. Check out Courtney’s blog at ahousebuiltontherock.com
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