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One of the greatest privileges and responsibilities we have as parents is to PRAY for our children. As we stand before the Throne of Grace, pleading for our children, God hears us. My husband and I created an intentional plan for praying for our children.
Would you like to know what it is?
It’s exciting to watch as God hears and answers. And also as He asks us to wait for our requests if He doesn’t answer in our timing. Praying for our children shouldn’t be a burden. With a simple plan you will find it much easier to pray for your kids. And much easier to keep track of when God answers your prayers.
Write Out the Plan
This is a SIMPLE and PRACTICAL process that will involve a pen and paper.
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First you’ll want to dedicate a section of your notebook to each of your kids. Or perhaps you might even want one notebook per child. Really the method doesn’t matter as much as the plan does.
This process is very simple.
The first thing that you will do is write your child’s name at the top of whatever section you choose. If you are using a notebook, then simply put your child’s name at the top of the page. Under the child’s name, please write ‘praises’. And in the next section please write ‘prayer requests’.
Take the Time to Evaluate
My husband and I enjoy doing this together, but you can easily do it alone as well.
The first thing that I want you to do is sit quietly and without interruption while you think about ONE particular child.
Try to keep your mind from wandering into thinking about your relationship with your other children if you have more than one.
Try to make this a time where you know you will not be interrupted. It is VERY important that you make a thorough evaluation of EACH child.
Of course, you can always add to your list later. But for now, I would like you to get a strong base of information so you know what to be praying about.
Be Sure to Accentuate the Positive
At this point, I want you ONLY to think about the positive qualities and characteristics of your child.
This is the part where you will write down everything you are thankful for regarding your child under the ‘praises’ section in your notebook or binder of choice.
Don’t be afraid to write little things down as well. If you feel like you have seen some positive characteristics in your son or daughter write it down.
Not only will you have time to praise God for your child’s characteristics, but if you have found that you have not been able to appreciate your child as much as you should, this will help you to feel like you can focus more on the positive traits.
Be Specific About the Needs of Your Child
Next, I would like you to think about ALL of the areas in your child’s life that are a concern.
These could be problems with attitude or character. Or maybe you simply need direction for how to parent your child.
Is your child strong-willed? Have you had trouble with obedience? Is your he older and needs prayer for direction for life choices? Does he need Salvation? Do you want God to convict him to be baptized?
This is the time to write down ALL of the things that you will faithfully be committing to pray for.
There is really nothing too little to ask God for.
I remember a time when we were struggling with a simple attitude with one of our kids. We wrote it down and faithfully began to pray. It was so AWESOME to see God answer our request.
(Something that is important to note, is that sometimes God changes our child, and sometimes he changes our own hearts toward our child.)
Include Your Child if He is Old Enough
When your kids are little they may not understand as much, although it is still okay to talk to them and let them know that you are praying for them.
But there is something special about being able to include an older child. I would not recommend showing him the list that you are making, since he may feel awkward about your specific requests. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t include him.
Plan a time that is distraction-free and tell him that you are developing a plan to pray specifically for him. At that time, ask him if there is anything you can pray for him about. Does he have any fears? Or struggles at school? Is there anything he would like to praise God for?
There is something about knowing that your parent is praying for you that brings a lot of security and encouragement.
Record Answered Prayer
Write the date down beside each entry. Pray faithfully the God would answer your request. But then please remember to record when God does answer your prayer.
It is so encouraging as a parent to be able to flip through your prayer book and see the ways that God has worked in your child’s life.
Maybe you are at a place where you feel like you have prayed for your child for a long time and God hasn’t answered. Please be patient and keep praying. Scripture says
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16b (NIV)
God does hear you and he knows your heart. He doesn’t always promise to answer the way that we ask, but He does ask us to keep praying continually. (And we don’t know God’s timing or His plans!)
How about you? What are some ways that you have prayed for your children? Please comment below and let me know what ideas you have for faithfully and intentionally praying for your kids.
Check out my post on how to have an effective quiet time.