This is the Easiest Way to Train Your Kids According to the Bible
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The kitchen door slammed shut again, waking the baby as kids ran through the house and the dog barked. ‘How many times do I have to tell you NOT to slam the door?’ And, ‘PLEASE come in quietly. You never know when the baby is sleeping!’Please tell me I’m not the only parent that has these problems! Why does it seem like kids need to hear things over and over before they actually listen? If this has ever happened to you, then I want to teach you my simple, easy secret to child training!
GUMNADZO (goom-nad-zoe) is a word I had never heard before. But once I did, it made ALL the difference in how I parent. It’s actually the word that gymnasium comes from and it means to train or exercise.
It is the secret ingredient to raising kids who know how to listen and obey AND to do it happily. It works with any age and will make your life so. much. easier!
Once I explain the process, you’ll see how FUN and EASY gumnadzo parenting is!
You’ll definitely need to set aside some time to practice it. But it will be worth it!
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When boiled down, basically what you will do is teach, train, and practice. It’s very simple, yet OH so effective! You are going to teach your child exactly how to do whatever it is you are struggling to get them to do.
First, you will teach him how to do said thing, and then you will train him how to do it. Following the teaching and training, you will practice, practice, practice!
For the sake of this post, let’s just say that you are having a struggle getting your kids to go to bed in a way that doesn’t feel like your herding a bunch of goats into a corral! I’ll use that example throughout, so you can see how easy (and fun) it is.
First, you need to teach your child the process you expect when you say it is time to go to bed. (Remember, this is just an example and can be used with any age child, any scenario. Just pick one area that needs a little work).
I like to walk my kids through and explain each step. For example, when I say, ‘It’s time for bed, I would like you to put away whatever you are doing and respond by getting up and heading to the bedroom. You will need to get dressed in your pajamas and use the bathroom. Please brush your teeth and get a drink. Then I would like you to get into your bed and wait for me to come and tuck you in. (Obviously, this will change depending on the age of your kiddos). Once in bed, I don’t want you to get out of bed (raise your hand if this happens repeatedly at your house!). Then I will pray with you, shut the lights off and we will see each other in the morning!’
I will walk through all of the steps with them. (Do not do this at bedtime! This needs to be sometime during the day). Now comes the fun part…
After I have taught my kids what I want them to do, it’s time to practice.
Choose a Non-Conflict Time to Practice Training Your Kids
You definitely want to have kids that are well rested and ready to learn. If you are in the middle of an argument or a conflict just happened, now is NOT the time to work on gumnadzo.
Choose a time during the day when you can dedicate a significant amount of time to practice the things that you have taught. I’m talking full-on practice.
This means you will say, ‘Ok, kids, it’s bedtime.’ And then you will expect them to walk through everything you expect (and taught). Yes, this even means they will get into their pajamas!
Usually, our practice sessions will turn into lots of laughter. It is kind of funny to practice going to bed at 3:30 in the afternoon! When you take the stress out of a bedtime routine and there’s no pressure to actually get into bed because the clock isn’t ticking, you can have a LOT of fun!
This is true with anything you are trying to teach. When it’s done in a non-conflict time, I don’t have all of the emotions that come with a child who didn’t listen AGAIN!
Be Patient With Your Kids as You Train Them
Training kids takes time and LOTS of patience. They don’t always get it the first time around.
You’ll need to have a loving and patient attitude as you teach, train, and practice. Think of something you have learned and remember that it takes time.
Encourage your child as you go and try really hard to keep your emotions in check. Remember that you are intentionally taking time out during a NON-conflict time to teach, so hopefully, you will be able to be more patient.
Teach Through the Problem Areas
It’s a good idea to figure out some areas that need work.
What are the things that you are ALWAYS correcting? What things seem to come up over and over again? Where do you hear yourself nagging the most?
If you pay attention, it won’t take long to figure out what things you need to be teaching. It can be something simple like taking his shoes off at the door or hanging up his jacket. Or it can be something complex, like the bedtime routine, or completing homework before doing fun things. Maybe it’s an attitude issue.
Kids can be taught and trained how to answer respectfully and kindly. Teach and train whatever areas that you see need work in your house. Whenever a new issue comes up that has been a problem, write it down so you don’t forget and TEACH!
Rinse and Repeat
It takes time to build new habits. Training happens after completing a task over and over again.
When we do training sessions in our house, we either set a timer for a certain amount of time or we agree on a set amount of times to practice. It’s also important to keep repeating the process throughout the week. Practice makes progress!
You will find that as you work on this simple little secret, your parenting will become much more enjoyable.
Conflict times will be less and less and you will enjoy your kids more!
Don’t forget to praise progress and reward milestones! You’ll be amazed at what a difference it will make in your parenting!
The gumnadzo training principle was first introduced to me when I read the book, ‘The Heart of Anger,’ by Lou Priolo. I highly recommend it! It is well worth your reading time! “We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.”
Have you ever done training sessions with your kids? How has it worked for you? I’d love to hear! Feel free to comment below.
PS I have found that when I have my child’s heart, it’s so much easier to train him. I’d encourage you to read my post, Why you Need to Have Your Child’s Heart.
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